1. Let Them Wear Something Comfortable
Not only comfortable in a physical sense but in a way that they are comfortable in their own skin. Many brides choose to let their girls wear different cut dresses in the same color (or if you’re really nice, in shades of the same color). This allows your friend to pick something that is not only comfortable on their body but makes them feel the most confident.
2. Be Direct
For some women that “bridezilla” title can come very easily but for most, it can be difficult to be the center of attention. Try to keep in mind that your bridesmaids are not mediums. They cannot read your mind or know what you want so be direct with them. If you have a friend who REALLY wants to plan a Vegas bachelorette party but that is not your style then tell them that. Being honest is different than being bossy and it will really help your girls make decisions as a group if you push them in the right direction.
3. Let Them Choose their Hairstyle
It’s a small victory for someone who is jumping every time you say “jump.” Unless you really have your heart set on a certain look, it doesn’t hurt to let them choose their own. Having them show you what they had in mind for approval before the stylist gets started isn’t a bad idea but keep in mind that they are more than likely paying for this service out of pocket and it adds insult to injury to pay for something you don’t like.
4. Make Them Feel Special
Make sure each girl knows how grateful you are and they are important to you. Obviously, you can’t control other people's emotions but do your best not to make any individual feel more important than another. Women, in particular, can be sensitive creatures and it can be hurtful to feel like you’re not noticed when you’ve invested so much into your relationship with the bride. Take the time to spend time not just together but one-on- one before the wedding. This will not only make your friend feel valued but it will be valuable memories for both of you once life gets busier. At the end of the day, just have fun with them and remember why you chose them in the first place.
